Life is not all rainbows and butterflies—hell, it can be tough. There are all these things that you should attend to and balance—your career and/or acads, relationships, family, financial responsibilities, your passion, among others—and there are times when you might feel that your life is spiralling out of control. Well, welcome to the real world.
I also have had (and will continue to have) my fair share of downs—times when I find myself on the verge of giving up. However, as I gained experience, I have also acquired wisdom.
Whenever I feel like giving up, I try to keep in mind these things:
1. Your thoughts are just suggestions that your brain makes.
Don’t regard every thought or idea that comes to mind as an order, but rather as just a suggestion. If at this moment, you are feeling hopeless in your current endeavor and your mind says that you should give up and start considering changing your career, don’t immediately consider it final and do that.
Instead, stop for a moment and think. I’m pretty sure that when you do, other better suggestions will also pop into your mind. Your mind may also suggest that all your efforts will be worth it once you achieved what you’re aiming for—that all of us are progressing according to our own timeline so there’s no use in comparing ourselves with others. It is also suggesting that whatever you’re going through will soon pass and you will finish your tasks even when it doesn’t feel like that’s going to happen.
Now that you’ve heard all the suggestions that your brain makes, it is time for you to choose which one to act on or follow. Obviously, it is best if you consider focusing on the positive stuff that your mind suggests and filter out all negative ones that are trying to convince you to stop and just give up.
2. Remember this mantra: This too shall pass.
If you want to chase the highs, you’ve got to handle the lows. Life is full of ups and downs, twists and turns. Always remember that whatever you’re experiencing right now is temporary. Your problem is temporary; the inconvenience that you’re feeling is temporary.
Remember that it is always about perspective. When you maintain the perspective that life is good despite these temporary discomforts, you will get through things easier. So the next time you experience hardships, take this opportunity to grow as a person—what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
3. All your hard work will pay off if it is directed to something that is worth doing.
When something is worth doing, you will never regret how much effort you exert on it. If you want to do great work and yield excellent results, you must be prepared to struggle and strive to achieve that. For instance, if you want to get a six-pack abs, you must be willing to perform your daily exercise routine targeted for your abdominal muscles. It is so often that people want the gold, but not the grind—this mentality has to stop.
When you really want something, no matter how many failed attempts you face or how difficult the road is to get there, it is always worth finishing.
Life is not like a walk in the park—you would have to fight tons of battles and make difficult decisions to become successful at it. Instead of giving up during challenging situations, continue fighting and live your life in such a way that will make you proud in the end. Don’t give up!!